勵志短語（三）

"When you realize that prosperity is your divine heritage, you should persist in claiming it." - Catherine Ponder: Author of books in the prosperity field

"If one advances confidently in the direction of one's dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." - Henry David Thoreau

"Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny." - Mohandas K. Gandhi

"The road to success and the road to happiness are two lanes of the same highway. And the toll you must pay is simply being true to yourself." - Author Unknown

"Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days. What you can do or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has magic, power, and genius in it." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe - 1749-1832, Poet, Novelist, and Scientist

Every religion on the planet has told us to have FAITH. Faith is when you cannot see how, but you absolutely know that the moment you have the dream it is given to you, and all you have to do is relax and allow the Universe to magnetize you to your dream and your dream to you. (The Secret Daily Teachings)

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind" - William James

"One who fears failure limits his activities. Failure is only the opportunity to more intelligently begin again." - Henry Ford

"Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success." - Napoleon Hill

You must believe that you have received. You must know that what you want is yours the moment you ask. You must have complete and utter faith. If you had placed an order from a catalogue you would relax, know you are going to receive what you ordered, and get on with your life. (The Secret, page 49)

"If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary." Jim Rohn

"We must take change by the hand or rest assuredly, change will take us by the throat." Winston Churchill

"When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn." Harriet Beecher Stowe

"My father instilled in me that if you don't see things happening the way you want them to, you get out there and make them happen." Susan Powter

"The value of achievement lies in the achieving." - Albert Einstein

"One of the greatest things in life is that no one has the authority to tell you what you want to be. You're the one who'll decide what you want to be." Jaime Escalante, 1930-2010, Educator

"You are the only problem you will ever have and you are the only solution." – Bob Proctor

"You must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short term failures." - Charles C. Noble

"The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible." - David Viscott

"When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it." - W. Clement Stone

The reason you have to love You is because it is impossible to feel good if you don’t love You. When you feel bad about yourself, you are blocking all the love and all the good that the Universe has for you. (The Secret, page 120)

"Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be." - George Sheehan

"You have to find something that you love enough to be able to take risks, jump over the hurdles and break through the brick walls that are always going to be placed in front of you. If you don't have that kind of feeling for what it is you’re doing, you’ll stop at the first giant hurdle." — George Lucas

"I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a "transformer" in any situation, any organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience, respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader." - Stephen R. Covey

勵志短語（二）

“When you have a purpose in life, a vision for what you want to achieve, and know why you want to achieve it, work becomes fun, and the time you spend working seems to just whizz by.” - Clayton J. Moore

“It is your own convictions which compels you; that is, choice compels choice.” - Epictetus

"An ounce of action is worth a ton of theory." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems -- not people; to focus your energies on answers -- not excuses.” - William Arthur Ward

"If you truly want to become a better you, it is imperative that you learn to feel good about yourself." - Joel Osteen

“To believe in yourself and to follow your dreams, to have goals in life and a drive to succeed, and to surround yourself with the things and the people that make you happy - this is success!” - Sasha Azevedo

“If you look at what you have in life, you'll always have more. If you look at what you don't have in life, you'll never have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey

"Your real purpose in life is to develop yourself. To successfully do this you must always be working toward a goal." - Bob Proctor

"You cannot dream yourself into a character; you must hammer and forge yourself one." - Henry David Thoreau

All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. - Bob Proctor

“We seem to gain wisdom more readily through our failures than through our successes. We always think of failure as the antithesis of success, but it isn't. Success often lies just the other side of failure.” - Leo F. Buscaglia

We are each creating our lives through our thoughts and feelings, and so you cannot hold yourself responsible for someone else’s happiness because you cannot jump inside someone else and think and feel for them. Focus on your joy, and be an inspiration to everyone around you. (The Secret Daily Teachings)

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

"Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure." — Napoleon Hill: Author, Think and Grow Rich.

“Don't dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” - Denis Waitley

“You have to find something that you love enough to be able to take risks, jump over the hurdles and break through the brick walls that are always going to be placed in front of you. If you don't have that kind of feeling for what it is you’re doing, you’ll stop at the first giant hurdle.” — George Lucas

“Wealth, like happiness, is never attained when sought after directly. It comes as a by-product of providing a useful service.” - Henry Ford

“There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up pleasant relations. It is a thorn that irritates and hurts; it is a sword that kills.” – Buddha

Your life right now is a reflection of your past thoughts. That includes all the great things, and all the things you consider not so great. Since you attract to you what you think about most, it is easy to see what your dominant thoughts have been on every subject of your life, because that is what you have experienced. Until now! (The Secret, page 9)

"The best kind of friend is the one you could sit on a porch with, never saying a word, and walk away feeling like that was the best conversation you've had." - unknown

"Decide the outcome and the action step, put reminders of those somewhere your brain trusts you'll see them at the right time, and listen to your brain breathe easier." - David Allen: Author and lecturer on personal and organizational effectiveness

"When you develop yourself to the point where your belief in yourself is so strong that you know you can accomplish anything you put your mind to, your future will be unlimited." — Brian Tracy

"Don't waste your life in doubts and fears: spend yourself on the work before you, well assured that the right performance of this hour's duties will be the best preparation for the hours or ages that follow it." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Visualization is simply powerfully focused thoughts in pictures, and it causes equally powerful feelings. When you are visualizing, you are emitting that powerful frequency out into the Universe. The LOA will take hold of that signal and return those pictures back to you, just as you saw them in your mind (The Secret, page 81)

原諒別人就是善待自己

在公車上看到證嚴法師這句話：

原諒別人，就是善待自己。

心有所感，其實我們真正需要原諒的不是別人，在某些情境下，原諒別人反而會使自己陷於痛苦、不滿的心境情緒裡。

需要原諒的，正是自己。原諒自己，疼惜自己，不要將別人造成自己的痛苦和傷害繼續用來折磨自己。

原諒自己，才能原諒別人。

拖延症

拖延症

Procrastination的形成

1. 一个人认为自己5天之内可以做完一件事情，所以在离deadline还有15天的时候一点不着急，直到最后只剩5天了才开始。

2. 这种紧迫感和焦虑往往促发人的斗志，会让自己觉得，自己只有在压力状态下才有做事情的状态。

3. 最后拿到成绩的时候，成绩往往不是很差，这样子就强化了自己最适合在deadline之前短期高压的状态下工作的心态，并且对以后的行为不断进行自我暗示。

这一个部分写得非常符合大部分有拖沓习惯的中国学生的经历。因为中国学生往往非常聪明，所以哪怕最后只剩一点点时间了，也会完成得不错；从而自认为自己最适合这样
子的工作状态。周而复始，反复循环。

Procrastination的其他特点

1. 没有自信。因为每次完成任务都达不到自己最高的能力，对自我能力的评估会越来越低。

2. 我太忙。我一直拖着没做因为我一直很忙。

3. 顽固。你催我也没有用。我准备好了自然会开始做。

4. 操控别人。他们着急也没用，一切都要等我到了才能开始。

5. 对抗压力。因为每天压力很大，所以要做的事情一直被拖下来。

6. 受害者心态。我也知道自己怎么会这样，别人能做得自己做不到。

Procrastination的浅层原因

1. 太难。

2. 太耗时间。

3. 没有相关知识技能。

4. 害怕别人知道自己做不好。

Procrastination深层原因，以及解决方法

1. 完美主义。

所有事情都要达到一个很高的境界，要一次做好，所以不愿意匆匆忙忙开始，要万事俱备才行。解决方法：对自己说现在的状态就已经很好，可以开始了。每有一点进展都鼓励自己。意识到一点错误都不犯是不可能的。伟大的作家，诗人，艺术家都是断断续续完成他们的杰作的，自己也可以如此。

2. 抵制与敌意。

这个老师对我态度太差了，所以我不高兴作他布置的作业。解决办法：要意识到，不完成作业受害的是自己。不能仅仅因为一个老师的态度而影响到自己的前途。

3. 容易颓废。

任务太难了，或者别人都不需要做我干吗要做，不能忍受持续做这件事情，等明天再做吧。但是往往明天到了，心里还是不高兴做，又继续往后推。解决办法：寻找一切可以找到的帮助，设法降低事情的难度，取得进展；暂时推迟自己想要放弃的心态，每天能多做一点就多做一点。

这一点也很符合很多中国学生的现状。因为不是人人都对自己的课题感兴趣的，所以容易产生厌倦感，所以不容易定下心来完成相关任务。解决的办法如上所说，向别人寻求帮助，听取建议，同时可以把任务分成比较容易的小块，化整为零，告诉自己其实每一个小部分都很容易就能完成。

4. 自我贬低。

如果常常不能很好地完成任务，自己对自己的能力的估计会越来越低，即使以后完成好了，也认为是运气。解决办法：接受别人对自己工作的赞扬；自己对自己进行勉励。

Procrastination治疗的步骤

1. 意识到自己的拖沓是完全没有必要的。

2. 把拖沓的原因一条条写出来。

3. 一条条克服这些原因。

4. 开始做事。

Procrastination: Ten Things To Know

1. 百分之二十的人认为自己是长期拖拉的人。对他们来说拖拉是一种生活方式，虽然并不适应它。这种状态充满了他们的生活。他们不能按时付帐单，他们忘了买音乐会的门票，他们直到圣诞前一天才去买礼物……

2. 拖拉并非不重要，虽然通常我们不把它当作一个严重问题。它其实是一个自我调节的深奥问题。通常我们都宽容别人拖拉的借口，这也是问题的根源。

3. 拖拉并不是时间管理或者计划方面的问题。拖拉并不因个人对时间的估计能力而不同，虽然这些人会更乐观一些。Ferrari博士强调说：“要一个拖拉的人做一个有计划的人，就像让一个长期消沉的人马上振奋起来一样。”

4. 拖拉不是天生的。它是从周围的人学来的，但并不直接。它可能来自强权的家教，拖拉甚至可能是一种反抗的形式。这种家庭环境下，朋友对拖拉者的宽容会助长这种习惯。

5. 拖拉的饮酒者会有更高的酒精需求量。拖拉的人会喝的更多，这是自我调节有问题的表现。

6. 拖拉的人对自己撒谎。比如“我更想明天做这件事”，或者“有压力我才能做好”，但实际上并非如此。拖拉者的另一个谎言是时间压力会让他们更有创造力，其实这只是他们的感觉而已，他们是在挥霍时间。

7. 拖拉的人不断找消遣的事儿，特别是自己不需要承诺什么。查看电子邮件就是绝佳的目标，这样的事情成为他们调节情绪（比如害怕失败）的一个途径。

8. 拖拉并非一模一样。拖拉的人有不同的原因，Ferrari博士定义了三种基本的拖拉者：

（1）鼓励型，或者说找刺激型，他们盼着最后几分钟忙碌带来的快感

（2）逃避型，他们回避失败的恐惧，甚至害怕成功，但实际上他们非常关心别人怎么看自己，他们更希望别人觉得他不够努力而不是能力不足。

（3）决心型，他们没法下决心。不下决心就可以回避对应对事情的拖拉。

9. 拖拉带来的损失巨大。健康是其中之一，研究表明拖拉的人更容易患病。拖拉也影响人的情绪，也会破坏团队协作和人际关系。

10. 拖拉会改变人的行为，但不会耗费多少精神力量。这并不意味着一个念头就能马上改变。这个问题可以通过高度规范的认知行为治疗来解决。

大腦愈常用 退化速度愈緩慢

大腦愈常用 退化速度愈緩慢
台灣新生報 2008.10.30

隨著年齡增加，大腦結構改變，使得有些區域功能減退，不同區域間的聯繫變差，正常的認知功能退化到失智症的過程是漸進式的，輕度知能減退(MCI)是過渡階段。台北榮民總醫院神經醫學中心臨床心理師林克能表示，退化並非不可避免，有些腦細胞是仍然在分化與生長，記憶力與認知功能是可以維持的。

林教授在講座指出，讓記憶儲存成功的要素分為五種──

大腦有氧運動：經驗是非常重要的，作一些讓腦筋參與或有挑戰的事情，作些新鮮，不常作的事讓大腦有氧運動可以經驗一些不預期的事以及多利用身體不同的感官。

社交活動與支持：參與活動並維持親密人際關係可增強身體與心理健康，有良好社會支持網絡等同於有良好的健康。

健康的生活：吃得健康，多運動，少抽煙，少喝酒。

減緩腦部老化方法：腦力健診、年長者認知功能的改變、大腦保健、記憶力訓練、活到老、學到老。

如何面對老化：瞭解有些遺忘是必然的現象，腦不怕用，只怕不用，亦須保持年輕的心，接受新事物，保持活到老、學到老的心態，並且刻意的去面對一些挑戰，如數獨等遊戲。

林教授表示，遺忘是必然的現象，只要不怕用腦，保持年輕的心，願意接受新事物，面對新挑戰，保持活到老、學到老的心態，則可有效減緩腦部的老化。